This morning I was excluded from a psychosocial support group and I am feeling very hurt and very angry

Hey there @PositivePossum6

Sorry to hear about that really rough experience. It's very invalidating to have a reasonably simple request like that turned down. Even worse that it has left you feeling so frustrated and angry!

Is there anything that you might find helpful in reducing that anger? I know for myself, if I leave my anger unresolved it can really throw off and spoil my entire day. I hope that won't be the case for you today.

I'm very sorry to hear how hurt you are as well. I'm sitting with you and sending my support. I hope the pain passes soon 💙🐝

I think the best thing to do is make some phone calls. I will call Sane later.

Hi @PositivePossum6 it's awful when places that are meant to be nurturing, by their very name, "social", don't deliver or understand how they can hurt us and make us feel worse. That certainly wasn't ok and I'm baffled why she couldn't read it?

I don't like socialising much in groups and would struggle to go to something like u described...so well done you for going. And for asking for what you needed to participate.

It sounds very disappointing

Hi @PositivePossum6,

I'm really sorry this happened to you and your anger and frustration around how you feel about this makes complete sense to me. I obviously don't know your group or how it works but from you say I can't understand the reason why the staff member couldn't read out your check in. It's not like you didn't want to check in - you just wanted it read out.

I would imagine it would be frustrating and hurtful to constantly feel excluded from particular spaces in your community. Perhaps that is not how your community intends to make you feel but I am a big believer in it's not how it is sent out so much but how it lands that counts. I'm really sorry you are feeling like this. Getting to see you posts on the forums I can tell you are a very kind, thoughtful and very intelligent person. I understand why you are feeling the way you do but I really hope the anger and pain you are currently experiencing eases for you soon - you really don't deserve to feel this way and I am sorry that you have had to go through this.

Warm regards,

FloatingFeather

Hi @PositivePossum6

Just saw this about your exclusion from the group and wanted to say how awful it must have been for you. How are you feeling about it now? I'm so puzzled why they couldn't read out your check-in for you! That seems just ridiculous.

Hanami

Hi @hanami,

Thank you for asking me how I am feeling. Today I am feeling a lot better because last night I had the chance to talk to my friends about what happened. My friends gave some very excellent advice.

You are certainly right that it was ridiculous that they could not read my check-in, as someone who communicates best through the written word to overcome my communication struggles I write things down.

It is very interesting to me that a place like the Sane forums are far more inclusive than a psychosocial support group that is more 'in person'. As a person with autism I find the forums here on Sane very welcoming of my neurodiversity and the forums help me communicate most effectively. It is easier for me to communicate using the forums and I feel at home on the forums. I was born in 1991, so I grew up around computers and instant messaging --- the internet, forums, places like Reddit, Instagram and Facebook are very familiar places to me. Whereas the internet can be an overwhelming place for those of my parents generation.

I have volunteered my knowledge and expertise of the internet and just my digital literacy skills to many older Australians and people from CALD backgrounds in aged care settings. I have helped many senior Australians improve their digital confidence; and I am very happy to have been able to help the older generations.

Good to hear you got some good advice from your friends and that you're feeling better about what happened at your group.

And totally understandable you feel more comfortable in a digital environment!

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