Hi @snitzel,
there is a common mis-conception out there that if you have had a breakdown, then you must be totally incapacitated - sitting on the floor, babbling gibberish, unable to even go to the toilet by yourself! 
You and I and @utopia and many others know that this is not true.
People with severe mental illness can often look and act 'normal' (whatever that is.) Even a trained expert would not necessarily know you were suffering, unless you told them your symptoms.
I guess people mean well.... or most of them do. They try to focus on the bright side- "at least she doesn't have to go to work" they think. But their comments come across as dismissive and uncaring.
I remember when I had a breakdown and returned from the big city to stay with my parents in the country... I had severe depression, anxiety and panic disorder. I was medicated to the max. I was teary and restless. My Mum said to me... "You have to get a job if you want to stay here."
As though getting a job would cure me! And the implication being that I was 'faking it', that there was really nothing wrong with me that hard work wouldn't fix. To have that attitude thrown at me by strangers would have been bad enough, but coming from my parents, it was very hurtful.
At their request, I did get a (stressful) job and coped by drinking every night. I probably prolonged my recovery by staying with them and working hard.... but I can only see all this in hindsight.
@snitzel, focus on professional advice for now. Try to ignore those people who aren't supportive. If someone you really care about says something that bothers you, then invite them over and explain your symptoms to them in detail, as much as you feel like revealing, anyway. If you go through everything step by step, they should understand.
I remember explaining what a panic attack was like, physically and mentally- in detail, to my sister and she was blown away by my explanations. She was like "Oh. Dear."
