ArraDreamingSenior Contributor
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Tip99New Contributor
Re: I’m a loser
I use my phone too when I am feeling anxious in a social setting.
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tymeModerator
Re: I’m a loser
Hey @ArraDreaming ,
I'm here if you need a chat 🙂
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ArraDreamingSenior Contributor
Re: I’m a loser
Hey @tyme @I am ok, was just feeling awkward. Got invited to a mates place for drinks and music but then I just sat their awkwardly for a lot of time, found a couple nice people in the end but I know I looked like a massive loser
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tymeModerator
Re: I’m a loser
Hey @ArraDreaming - to be honest, I don't think you would've looked like a loser even if it felt awkward.
I don't know about you, but after 'growing up' , I found I don't enjoy parties much at all. As kids and young-er people, parties was the cool thing....now, it's more an obligation and often feels awkies unless family/kids tag along that you can be distracted with.
What do you think?
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ArraDreamingSenior Contributor
Re: I’m a loser
That’s what happened @tyme
It wasn’t really a party more just a gathering in a backyard.
normally I’d do to those thibgs with my partner but we don’t have all the same friends and it was last minute sp I just went on my own. There was a few people I ended up hanging out with which was ok in the end
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tymeModerator
Re: I’m a loser
Fair enough @ArraDreaming - people change, people 'grow up', people mature, and so do their interests. Makes sense you went alone seeing you probably didn't have enough time to organise for a babysitter.
Out of curiosity, if the situation arose again, would you attend?
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ArraDreamingSenior Contributor
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I would because it ended up being quite fun, but I did sit alone for a fair bit of time and just felt like everyone was like “oh what a loser on his own” and then when I did speak to people after a few minutes they ended up going to speak to other people and I was just standing there by myself, I tried to join in to different conversations but just felt real awkward. It was a bit weird but I’d go again because they are friends of mine/acquaintances through a sports club I was in.
skmetimes I can be super introverted and not sure what to do other times I’m the opposite. @tyme
I think I left thinking it was fun I had a good time but can’t help but think I was definitely the awkward loser who people weren’t sure I was even there, because I am
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tymeModerator
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I'm happy to hear your recent experience hasn't deterred you from going again @ArraDreaming . That shows resilience.
And as you said, it was awkward at first, but when you began to mingle, it ended up okay. In a way, it feels like the new kid in the class, or a first day at work, eh?
Takes time to warm up, but it's probably good to get out once in a while.
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ArraDreamingSenior Contributor
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Yeah spent the last 2 and a half years with limited social opportunities… feels weird to be back out. @tyme also doesn’t help that I don’t drink anymore
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tymeModerator
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Are all social gatherings about drinking @ArraDreaming ? Obviously there are reasons you don't drink (I don't either), but I guess, being around people is because they like you as a person, rather than the drinking?
As for social opportunities in the last 2 years, yes, they have been very limited. It's like kids born during lockdown. You can see it's really affected them. At kids' sporting events, I spoke to a coach, and he said the kids that have recently joined are nothing like what he used to see - these ones all need their parents right next to them to even kick a ball! One of my nieces too. Born in lockdown and spent 2 years of her life in trackies. She HATES dressing up, hates dresses, hates having her hair done. And she's only just turned 2.
So yes, I hear covid has certainly affected us in a social sense.