Bipolar 2 sudden break up

Hi there @VanillaPear

Welcome to the forums and thank you for sharing your story. I'm one of the peer workers here on the forums at Sane. It sounds like a really challenging situation you're in and I empathise with you. I probably can't offer re relationship advice with someone who has a bipolar diagnosis but I'm wondering if some of our members may be able to offer some words of wisdom @Zoe7 @Dallas @Aniela @Powderfinger @Gazza75 @Daisy15 @Appleblossom @Eve7
@Smiling_Gecko @Mortiis

Again, welcome and I hope you get some care and support in regards to your situation.

Sending warm wishes

Hanami

Hi @VanillaPear,

Welcome to this space - my name is FloatingFeather and I am one of the peer support workers at SANE. I can read you and your boyfriend are going through a difficult and confusing time at the moment which I can empathise with. A close family member mine was diagnosed with bipolar 1 many years ago and I am one of his main carers so I have a good insight into the rollercoaster that bipolar can be.

The flat mood / depression is something that I have seen a lot with my family member. I have also seen the mania side as well. What I can tell you is that with the right medication, professional team, family and friends bipolar can be very manageable.

I can only speak of my own lived experience but I did find my family member would push people away from him at times. I think one of the reasons he did it was he didn't want to be a burden on others (which he wasn't).

It takes time to understand and get your head around any type of diagnosis (just like it would if you had a medical diagnosis) so I think giving your boyfriend some time and space makes sense. Like you said, it is also a good time to learn a bit more about bipolar and how you may be better able to support your boyfriend. I do think it's lovely that you care so much about him that you want to understand what he is going through and help him - it speaks a lot of your caring nature.

Here is a link to more information about bipolar from our website: https://www.sane.org/spotlight-on/bipolar. I would also encourage you to get support - as someone that has cared for someone with bipolar for many years I know it can be a lonely and overwhelming place so please reach out for support from those you trust and feel safe with. Here is a link to some information to our families and carers page: https://www.sane.org/spotlight-on/families-carers.

There are many wonderful and supportive members on our forums with a lot of varied lived experience and wisdom - I look forward to seeing what they have to say 🙂

Best wishes,

FloatingFeather

thank you @FloatingFeather , @hanami

hello @VanillaPear and welcome to the forum

when my husband and I were dating he said ( oh I think we should be just friends ) this was before he was diagnosed with Bipolar 2 ( he had other MI diagnosis)

I was surprised at first and then I said "no " because I love you and I know you love me and we can get through this together

I became his second wife and a step mum of his 4 children

we have had lots of storms along the way

Like what @FloatingFeather said --- What I can tell you is that with the right medication, professional team, family and friends bipolar can be very manageable. is very true

and also with me , my husband wanted me involved in his treatment totally

and I have learnt soo much and through sane too

Hi @VanillaPear,

Just wanted to check in and see how you are getting on? Hope you are okay.

Have you heard from you boyfriend in the last few days?

Best wishes,

FloatingFeather