sisteranonymousNew Contributor
paranoid/grandiose psychosis in a sibling - I'm exhausted and need help
I am the 7th sibling in a family of 8 and I don't know what to do about my brother anymore. He is 27 and still lives at home with my parents who are both 70 and younger brother who is 21. We have all suffered from his manic episodes and psychotic rage and have called the police numerous times. Myself, my dad and my sister (29) have all had police enforced restraining orders against him. He had a magic mushroom trip 2 years ago and was experiencing grandiose hallucinations for the following 3 months. My younger brother and I raised it with our parents and asked for help but when we tried to talk to him he takes on another personality and knows exactly what to say, like his psychosis has an on/off switch so he doesn't get caught out. He started pointing out UFOs and talking about gnostic religions and underground communities, but would only say so much so as not to reveal too much to us, like his spiritual awakening and he things he learned were a secret just for him. He now believes he is a shaman and is here to heal people on their spiritual journey. For about a year he didn't have an anger episode but they are starting again and I don't know what to do. I was so badly depressed and on edge living with him that I had to leave but I can't stand to visit their house anymore because he is too triggering to be around. I hate leaving my parents and younger brother with him to experience it day to day but because of his age he can only be admitted to a psychiatric hospital on his own accord, and once the heat of his episode is over he says he is fine and doesn't need help but it continues to happen. He had me call the ambulance to take him to hospital for help a few months ago, but after 3 hours of waiting he had come to and cancelled it. I'm scared that we have to wait for him to snap again to get him admitted and my parents won't kick him out because he doesn't have the skills to live on his own, he can't even clean up after/provide for himself. I'm also concerned because when he has a psychotic episode he is so hyperaware and manic that he would know what to say to avoid admission, as if he knows how to act sane. He has been diagnosed with ADD and ADHD when he was 6 and refuses to see a doctor because he doesn't think they understand or can help and believes he can do it on his own. My older siblings are tired of trying to talk to him, my parents are exhausted. They should be retired and enjoying each other but they are stuck with the burden of tiptoeing around an unstable 27 year old. He refuses to take any medication but has been smoking marajuana since he was 13 (he now has a medical script for it). We are all exhausted from the years of emotional, psychological and verbal abuse. I need help, resources, even someone to understand and validate the years of trauma that have been overlooked as 'just another bad day for him'.
