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Why are we all so dissatisfied all the time

PrincessmollySenior Contributor29 Sept 2016, 5:42 pm AEST

Why are we all so dissatisfied all the time

I am not depressed. For the first time ever but i have this anxious and unhappy feeling...like i am wasting my life and that it has no purpose or meaning. I feel lost. Like a abandoned ship drifting on the currents of the ocean. Never getting anywhere but more lost. The thing that makes me mad is my inability to just be happy with my life: I have a job in the medical field.....i fantasise about quitting all the time as it brings me great stress but i earn good money and we cant do without my wage. I love my 2 year old but i dont know what to do with him all day every day. Daycare days are a huge releif. We bought a house all i can focus on is things that need fixing and the fact we have no family here. I have been married for a year. I think i have had s.e.x. 3 times and put in 20kg in that time. I cant stop eating excessivley I see pictures of starving kids and i feel so anxious that we could get involved in a war and my son could end up that way. I feel awful for veing so big when pee have NO food to eat. I feel like i wabt to help people but i cant even help myself. I see people do amazing things and i cant even keep on top of the laundry. This is a useless rant. Im a lost soul. I think my main problem is i am looking to people and things to make ME happy instead of focusing on ways i can make others happy. This constant need for more and feeling like what i have isnt enough it mentally and physically exhausting

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In response to: Why are we all so dissatisfied all the time

utopiaSenior Contributor29 Sept 2016, 11:54 pm AEST

Re: Why are we all so dissatisfied all the time

@Princessmolly. Your post makes a lot of sense to me. It sounds like your depression has eased but that your anxiety is high.
You have a lot that's going on at the moment. A 2 year old - I remember - pure exhaustion.
A job you need but not a job you enjoy. Add in a recent marriage and buying a house - that's a lot of stress.
It would be good to show your psychologist this post - so they can understand all the worries you carry on your shoulders.
Recently my depression and anxiety have decreased and I'm feeling a lot better. Happy? I have moments of happiness. They are fleeting. What I do have is a strong feeling of contentment.
I'm rediscovering who I am. I'm starting to do things I used to enjoy doing. But I've managed this with the help of my psychologist and medication. I don't think I could have got to this point on my own.
So who do you see for your mental health? Let them know how your feeling. I'm sure they will be able to help you feel more like you - & less exhausted.
I wish you well.

In response to: Re: Why are we all so dissatisfied all the time

AppleblossomSenior Contributor30 Sept 2016, 12:09 am AEST

Re: Why are we all so dissatisfied all the time

@Princessmolly Given what you have posted about your childhood and parents, I think you deserve a substantial PAT on the back.

When we havent had a happy secure enuff period during childhood, then we dont have an automatic restful tranquil psychic place to drop back into..and we dont have the million skills of being a parent in easy memory. We have to learn them from scratch .. and its a HUGE learning curve.

It is great that you have a reasonable job and home and family of creation.

It is natural to anticipate some of the issues our children will face in their lives .. we just have to manage it ... as we will never forsee their actual future and nobody can protect their child from everything .. some of it is natural and healthy imagining.

I went through some of the war stuff .. with my son .. and we processed it gradually ...he was in Airforce cadets .. and he developed his attitudes about politics and war and could talk to me .. and more and more I felt he would cope ... we try and build resilience into our kids ... you have HEAPS to have survived ...

trying to be a perfect parent doesnt help .. then you rob the child of doing its own learning and growing.

Being an exhausted mother of a 2 year old boy is soooooooooooooo normal.

Take care

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