Why Does This Always Happen?

@Snoopy56 I'm sorry to hear your volunteer job is at risk 😞

Do you have a psychologist you can talk this through with and get some helping strategies from?

I will tag @BPDSurvivor in case they can help...

Thanks for the tag @NatureLover !

Hi @Snoopy56 , I can absolutely resonate with what you are saying. People just DONT UNDERSTAND!

Have you ever considered that if pwBPD lived alone on an island, no one will ever know they had a problem? PwBPD face significant challenges in the face of inter and intra personal relationships. And is what I'm hearing from your post.

For me, it took a long time of intense psychotherapy to get to the place I am now. It has made a huge difference to my life. And it was certainly very hard work. It felt like I had to do everything that was against my nature so that I could retrain my brain.

We had a bit of a discussion last night about it LIVE CHAT: BPD for Friends, Family and Carers - This Sunday 3rd October 7:00-8:30pm AEDT

Also, have a browse through Raising Awareness of BPD - Flipping the Script

I hope you'll find some comfort to not only know you are not alone, but to know that recovery is very possible.

I'll check in with you later today.

BPDSurvivor

No, I am not in Lockdown. Yes, I wish I had a friend. Just one friend who liked me no matter what and visa versa. My volunteer job is like walking on egg shells with staff and other volunteers.

I too have spent a lot of time doing DBT, ACT, psychodynamic therapy for two years weekly and yet I still have trouble managing my BPD specially when it comes to trust, respect, rejection and my other traits. I lost my paid job because of my BPD so to find I am struggling to keep a volunteer job is heartbreaking.

I had a fantastic psychologist until February this year when she went on maternity leave. The locum psychologist was more interested in getting paid than helping me. I haven't had one since mid May 2021. Finding another one is too hard and the waiting period can be as long as 3 to 4 months if I was lucky.

Hope you get a little sense of connection here @Snoopy56

It usually takes a little time.

People can be tricky at work and all over.

Some of the trickiest people have never done work on themselves. Sad but true.

Take Care

Apple

Thanks but I will always feel like I don't belong, that I am looking in from outside.

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@Snoopy56 wrote:

I had a fantastic psychologist until February this year when she went on maternity leave. The locum psychologist was more interested in getting paid than helping me. I haven't had one since mid May 2021. Finding another one is too hard and the waiting period can be as long as 3 to 4 months if I was lucky.

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@Snoopy56 Sadly I agree that waiting to get into a new psychologist is long and hard.

But is your psychologist who's on maternity leave coming back to work soon? So you could maybe resume with her when she does?

A handy forum tip is if you type @ and click on a name in the drop-down box, that person will get a notification and won't miss your reply. 🙂

I don't know if this helps or if you've ever looked into it before, but there are employment agencies who specialize in working with people with mental health issues. I've never used one myself, but the concept seems to be that they have a good understanding of the needs of people with mental health challenges and work with employers who do as well. I don't know what kinds of jobs they tend to have, but it might be worth looking into (for all of us).