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vmainard40Contributor
I am new here and I have a brother with schizo affective disorder. He is more Bi polar thant schizophrenia. I have taken over as his carer in the 18 months since our father died from cancer. I share the caring duties with my mum. He has really hit a wall recently and he even says it a delayed reaction to our father death. I am trying to do the best I can and want to talk to people who are in simular position to me.
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RosaSenior Contributor
A question vmain
How old is your brother
Have you considered this? As a carer dont forget that Mental welliness is a part of life even when suffering a MI. Its not a life sentence & it can be a shock to the owner. Excessive thinking & worry does not help you support your brother, this will war you out. Having positive thoughts & keeping your norms in check is vital. Having jun is allowed & highly recommended.
It can becoming consuming in many ways, especially if you take on bros pain & loss. Grieving may have not been possible when you expected it.
I feel that shifting focus on your role might help. How long since you guys had a "normal" day out. Allow yourself to have fun & good times with your brother & mum. We play Yatzee etc & cheat & tell jokes & laugh. Watch Shallow Hal its must make you smile. Filling the glass with other things not related to MI gives less room for it. Feeling normal is doing normal things. Grieving for dads doesnt go away. It just changes. I miss my dad too.
Your best is being a happy you, you are allowed to be and genuine happiness is contageous & keeps the black dog away.
All the best
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AttahuaSenior Contributor
My partner of seven years has schizo effective disorder and when he is well and taking his monthly depot we lead normal lives , he holds down a job and is a family man.
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Fancy_PantsSenior Contributor
Hi @vmainard40,
I just saw this thread Managing Schizoaffective Disorder and was thinking about your post, It is on the lived experience forum so coming from the individual who has these experiences but you are very welcome to look around and contribute
how are things at the moment?
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