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so torn

rainbowflower Casual Contributor

so torn

I am feeling very torn right now and need some help - my partner has recently been diagnosed with major depressive disorder and I really want to support them during this time. I love them very much. But he has changed so dramatically and I feel guilty saying this, but sometimes I feel like he isn't even trying to feel better, or positive or present. He has become so distant and uses substances to mitigate his feelings of depression which I TOTALLY understand but feel like it makes him more down and reclusive. I know he is pushing me away when he needs me most and I don't want to leave for that reason but it's so hard for me and it's taking a toll on my mental health and happiness. I don't know what do to - any advice appreciated! ❤️ 

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pamplemousse Senior Contributor

Re: so torn

Hi @rainbowflower ,

 

It sounds like you're having a really tough time right now. It can be incredibly difficult watching those you love struggle. the first thing is to make sure you are looking fater yourself, do you have supports around you, such as friends or family? 

 

I'm going to send a follow up email with some links for youself. 

 

Please coninue reaching out or support,

 

pamplemousse. 

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rainbowflower Casual Contributor

Re: so torn

thanks @pamplemousse, it's been really hard but I appreciate the email and acknowledgement. I am doing things for myself (self care stuff) and speaking to my mum a lot too.

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pamplemousse Senior Contributor

Re: so torn

that's really great to hear that you're able to speak with your mum. Self care is super important, it's good to get into good self acre habits

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