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GwynnSenior Contributor
Last night I was struggling a lot with trauma. I have a lifelong disability (from birth) and due to that I saw a lot of doctors as a kid, most of them good (but painful & humiliating) but some of them bad. I know my parents were trying to do the best thing for me, but it still hurts. Last night I cried, I knitted and I listened to some loving-kindness audios. The grief still lingers. What should I do?
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saltandpepperSenior Contributor
Sounds to me like you did a good job taking care of yourself and made it through the night. I hope tonight is a better night for you
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GwynnSenior Contributor
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Emelia8Senior Contributor
@Gwynn 💕
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
@Gwynn
It is always good to see you posting around the forum and you are often optimistic. I am so sorry your were feeling this way. You obviously know all the usual self care tips and follow them. Life is not fair, and physical health can be like a lottery. Still have to cope with it and the sense of despair and trauma.
Sending good will and vibes and a painting of a cosy corner.
Apple
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saltandpepperSenior Contributor
@Gwynn Also wanna say that I think it's OK the grief still lingers. Grief is a normal response to trauma. If you need to grieve for what has happened, do it, you deserve to acknowledge what happened and mourn
The other thing I usually suggest for people who struggle with trauma of a night is to make your bedroom as engaging as you can stand. Create tactile sensations everywhere. For me, I find it helpful to have things my physical senses can respond to straight away when I wake from a nightmare. It helps to pull me out of it quicker--I think so anyway. I use a white noise app, have a scented room spray sitting next to my bed, and also invested in some nice bedding. I don't sleep with socks on, I do this thing where it's like walking while in bed so I can feel the sheet rubbing on my feet. It sounds very weird but it's just that sensory thing, it's grounding. Anyway that's enough embarrassing tips from me.
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wellwellwellnezSenior Contributor
@Appleblossomits loungeroom and a rainbow.
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GwynnSenior Contributor
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AppleblossomSenior Contributor
@Gwynn I know what you mean by not wanting to be pigeon holed as a do gooder. Ahhhh the holes we are popped into ...
Here is a movie ... not sure if its your type?
https://www.sbs.com.au/ondemand/video/1634524227923/the-pigeon
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GwynnSenior Contributor
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