Hibernation Mode turned Survival mode

Im trying so hard to heal myself at the momment but how can help emotionally heal the rest of my family

so many things I just have to work through alone and in a way I prefer working through my struggles alone

Hi @LostAngel, sending lots of support to you, that sounds like it would have been really unpleasant, particularly the opening up of old wounds. And probably unexpected too, so it sounds like you could not have prepared for this, which can make it especially confronting

I'm glad there we still good parts to yesterday, and it sounds like you have amazingly supportive aunt. People like her can really help us get through situations like this, so I'm glad she could provide some safety and comfort for you in an otherwise unpleasant situation.

It's a great testament to your character that you care so much about your family that you want to help them to heal. A gentle prompt to consider, though, that the responsibility to do that isn't all on you. I do relate, though- I find it very easy to feel like I need to make everything better. It's very burdening, though, and not realistic- the responsibility is ultimately everyone's. Be gentle with yourself, and take care 💗

mmm thats true its everyones responsibility ,thank you for your support ,one thing I need is a good night sleep or lately alot of sleep,its easy to let family problems get me down at times,Im ordering pizza for dinner tonight and mayybe some netflix as at times my phone messages have been annoying,thats not to say that everythings terrible but as you understand family issues can be burden

ok to continue in terms of self healing I need some patience and now material things are needing fixing again my car engine mounts have gone so I am trying to get a mechanic but couldnt get through on the phone this afternoon but then again Ive had my own way alot lately in being able to go out places,I just need patience in a few areas emotionally and physical now,Im trying to keep a positive mindset,powering through,listening to music and now Im watching Terminater movies to have a distraction from thoughts and worries in my mind,I did call a family member yesterday and was feeling down on the phone or basically at a loss over the estranged family member situation but at the same time I didnt want to burden the family member on the phone with my worries I just simply said theres a few worries that I would I think I should keep to myself,they said yes you should keep things to yourself if your able to handle it but if its mentally starting to get to you you can talk to people and they said take care it seemed out of concern for my wellbeing,I geuss Im very much of the mindset lately of trying to heal myself emotionally,look after myself because I think its the best way for me to heal and acknowledge and learn things on my own about a few different things the family worries and then of course my personal life worries in terms of relationships but that info I really want to keep to myself cause it is so personal,I mean in saying that my personal private dating relationship has been helping me in fact the other night it was the online date who made me laugh and feel happy but then again I feel Im waying him down a bit emotionally with some of my behaviour that I think has come from other past people Ive dated strange how somehow all the different relationships you have wether its family or personal are all somehow linked and of course very much linked to your emotional self