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TomRiddle32Contributor
Hi folks
I am beginning a dbt program soon for bpd. I was wondering how long it generally takes for the intense depressive (Time stopping) emotional regulation episodes to stop? That's the symptom that I struggle with and pretty much is the only symptom really in my book. Thanks
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MazaritaSenior Contributor
Hi @TomRiddle32, welcome to the forum.
I do not have the information you are asking, but tagging @BlueBay and @outlander who may have a better idea, or be able to refer you elsewhere. I've never actually heard of the kind of intense depressive (Time stopping) emotional regulation episodes you mentioned. Perhaps it would help to describe a little more what you mean.
Hope you find the forum helpful, as it has been for many here.
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BlueBaySenior Contributor
Hi @TomRiddle32 welcome.
I have BPD abd years ago did DBT therspy. I'm not sure I understand what you mean (time stopping). I haven't heard that before??
Are you able to explain a little pls. Happy to chat any time. 😊
I will tag @BPDSurvivor as she's done this therapy.
thanks @Mazarita for tagging me.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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TomRiddle32Contributor
Thanks guys
The episodes (Probably emotional dysregulation) are very painful. It feels like the world is so non interesting that my mind does not go into my senses at all. Just my dark thoughts. The world is so non interesting ('interesting' is a very poor word but I got nothing else) that time comes to a complete stop. It's like counting each second of each minute for the entire episode which can last ages. And each of those seconds delivers dark thoughts and severe anxiety. I've never known someone to have bpd. Though I don't know what other's suffer. It's an extreme suffering that I just don't want to do any more of.
You really feel the weight of every second and it's torture. And made even worse by how invisible it is you feel so misunderstood
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BPDSurvivorSenior Contributor
Hi @TomRiddle32 ,
BPD recovery is very individualised. The time it takes for you would be different to others.
It sounds like you are talking about dissociation.
I guess DBT therapy is not about targeting a symptom, but rather teaching you new strategies to support effective functioning in society. These strategies take months of practise before new neural pathways are developed in the brain.
Hope this makes sense,
BPDSurvivor
@outlander @BlueBay @Mazarita
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MazaritaSenior Contributor
Hi again, @TomRiddle32
I have bipolar, with major depression and anxiety being the main symptoms over my life.
When I was at my most depressed, I remember being at a Patty Smith concert, an incredible artist, but I felt so horribly distant and untouched by anything I was hearing or experiencing. All I could feel was being swallowed up by my own depressive misery, all alone with it, unable to be reached. If what you experience is anything like that, I know it's awful and hope you are able to put this past you soon.
I still struggle with depression after a very long time now but I almost never experience anything as bad as that. There is hope for a better future.
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BPDSurvivorSenior Contributor
Hi @TomRiddle32 ,
How is your DBT therapy going? Just thought I'd check in to see how you are.
BPDSurvivor
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BPDSurvivorSenior Contributor
Hey @TomRiddle32 ,
Ive ordered the book. It sounds really interesting.
Howd your DBT meeting go?
BPDSurvivor
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